When I sit down with a new client at our design meeting, I share a few interesting etiquette details that always seem to be a surprise. And, honestly, I typically preface these details with the words, “90% of the population probably has no clue, but…” So, I thought today it would be fun to share a few of those quirky etiquette rules.
1. You should not include registry information on your wedding invitation. This information should only be provided via word of mouth from parents and wedding party to other guests. And, in this day and age, any guest can google your names and find your registry pretty easily. Don’t worry…you might still get an ugly chicken sugar bowl as a gift, but putting the registry info on the invitation wouldn’t have kept that from happening!
2. If you are getting married in a church, use the wording “request the honor of your presence”. If you are getting married in a non-church venue (hotel, inn, park, etc.), use the wording “request the pleasure of your company”. I will say that this is definitely a rule that my clients break all the time. And, honestly, I have no problem with it. Choose the wording that fits your wedding and tastes best. But, I still feel the need to share the rule!
3. If a guest is over 18, but living at home, they should get their own invitation. I know, I know…I always hear about that family that has three cousins that are in college and still living at home and that means 4 invitations for one family. Well, yes, it does. Again, take the rule, break the rule…it’s up to you!
4. Who pays for the wedding is who invites to the wedding. If the bride’s parents are paying then they are the ones inviting (Mr. & Mrs. John Smith request the honor of your presence…). If the bride and groom’s parents are splitting costs equally, then they both invite. (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Mr. and Mrs. Frank Jones request the honor of your presence…). If the couple, along with both sets of parents are paying, the they all invite. (Together with their parents, bride and groom, request the honor of your presence…)
So there are a few of those mind-blowing etiquette rules. Do you have any other questions about invitation etiquette for me?